What the hell is going on. Grandparents raising kids is such a growing epidemic. I don’t even know where to start anymore. Yes I can give you stats about how many millions are doing this and how many thousands are doing that but personally I like to write a lot of my posts from the heart with the attempt to get the same point across.
I have been spending a lot of time at my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/group… and I just can’t believe or understand some of the crap that is going on out there. I read and read and I continually have to keep catching my jaw as it falls and hits the ground.
I don’t know people if you understand but we have a crazy epidemic going on out there and it doesn’t seem like it’s going to be slowing down any time. In fact it feels like it is getting worse and that my friends is a very scary situation.
So for the rest of this article I am going to do some soul-searching and try to figure out how we can find the missing pieces of this proverbial puzzle. So we will be talking about the good, the bad and the ugly.
First Off Let’s Talk About The Good
Once again I’m sure there are a ton of statistics but sorry my heart out weighs my brain. Over and over we are hearing about grandparents raising grand kids and it appears there really is no direction to go.
Well I said this part is about the good so Let’s get right to that. Bad, bad, bad. We are always talking about the bad but believe it or not there are actually some good reasons that grandparents are raising grand kids.
Now please don’t get me wrong because all grandparents who step up to the plate are special people. However in this segment I am talking about certain things.
The first thing I am talking about is grandparents raising their grand kids because of deaths in the family. Now, of course there is nothing good about a parent dyeing but there is nothing sinister about the grandparents taking over in that case.
Then there are the families who work to survive. What I mean by this is many business owners put all their time into work to try and build a better life for their families. In doing this quite often they bring their parents in to help. What this means is that the grandparents are actually raising the kids while the parents sleep, eat and work. While this may not be the best scenario in the world it is filled with good intentions.
So at the end of the day there are actually positive reasons why children end up with their grandparents.
So Let’s Talk About The Bad
Now if you are a grandparent who gets to be a grandparent then you are one of the lucky ones. In my Facebook group and a few others we get to talk openly and by doing that we find out about a lot of the bad.
This is not a researched statistic but I bet over 80% of grandparents raising grand kids are doing so because of something to do with drugs. Drugs by far are the pitfall of our society and it’s showing it’s bad face every day.
Birth parents make decisions based on their drug use and not on the children that they bring in to this world.
Kids are being born addicted to drugs. after birth kids are being neglected, starved, uncared for, abused, sheltered and worst of all many are dyeing as a result of the actions of their birth parents. The parents are choosing drugs over their kids.
And yes I know it’s an addiction and I’m no stranger to addiction and at the end of the day it was still a choice that got them to where they are. It’s also choices to not move forward in getting better. Yes withdrawal and everything can be so difficult but what is worse than not being their for your kids to hold, love and protect them.
Now We Talk About The Ugly
So at this point you may be wondering what I’m talking about. You may be asking what can he say that he hasn’t already brought up. Well, I’m glad you asked. Let me tell you what I think is the absolute worst piece of this puzzle of life that we are trying to build.
For a lack of better words, I am talking about all the outside influences that can be there for grands but never seem to be. First of all to all friends and family. (Please know that this isn’t towards all friends and family because many are great for us.) So once again to friends and family. None of you, of course are obligated to be there for anything. However if you say you will be there to help then be there and don’t just talk.
Now I am going to talk about a group that really angers a lot of people that are in our situation. The list is quite long. Well here goes. Government officials, lawyers, judges, law makers, social workers and anyone else that qualifies to be on that list.
What I want to say first is shame on you. Shame on you for the things you do. On my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/group… I keep reading about how hard our grands work at keeping the grand kids safe but yet everyone throws a wrench into that.
Now, please don’t get me wrong. I am totally for trying to keep the kids with their parents but in so many situations it is overly obvious that reunification is not good for anyone.
It seems like everyone is trying to pass the buck and make excuses. I say shame on you to everyone in this category. It’s time to start thinking of the kids especially when it’s obvious the parents don’t care.
Where To From Here?
It’s all about education and letting as many people know as possible. We need to tell as many people as possible. I want biological parents to be held responsible. I want grandparents to get what they deserve. By that I mean more rights and financial support. I want the law makers to see how silly they are being by making some of the dumb decisions they are making.
At the end of the day I want the grandparents to stop having to look in the shadows just waiting for someone to walk up and take the grand kids back only to send them back into the breath of the dragon.
Let me make one thing clear to any law maker, any self centered bio or anyone else who doesn’t get it.
Not one single grandparent and I mean not one woke up one day and said we want to take our kids kids away and we want to be parents again. Not one asked to have to give up retirement or turn their lives upside down.
Plain and simple every one of them do it out of love. They do it at any cost because they have vowed to do what others decided they couldn’t. They keep their grands safe, happy, protected, happy, fed and as normal as possible.
Who Is Grandpa Dale ?
I’m just a normal person like yourself. I used to work in the oil patch for 26 years and that all came to a screeching halt when the price of oil hit rock bottom.
So, I am a 50-year-old grandfather who with my wife are raising our 6 yr old grandson and have been for 5 years and likely will be for many years to come.
I take this situation very seriously as I know every other grandparent does as well. When I am serious about something the best way I can get my word out is by writing. I love writing so decided to use it in my favor and the favor of all that decide to read this.
So, that is why I started the website that you are reading right here. Once again I also have a grandparents raising grandkids Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/group…
Also, if you are interested I have a page on this website that promotes some great products and will continue to add more great products. Please don’t feel obligated to buy but if you like what you see then go for it.
Also, as usual feel free to leave any comments or questions below and I will get back to you as soon as possible.